Sunday, December 17, 2017

This is NOT a Bucket List!

Dedicated to L.B for his never ending support.


Dear Guy,

While we are still not done with the retrospect on the important stages of your life till this day, I could feel, these last months, how you’re longing to give sense to a foreseeable future with the knowledge that your time left, is shortening.
A few years ago you took the decision, with the support of many, to go to Rwanda to fulfill a longtime dream to create a professional entity for dance over there.  For some, it looked like it was your last major undertaking. Probably influenced by the many obstacles you have faced, your mind has, in its still never ending creativity, build a slight different outcome of what is commonly known as retirement. The poor involvement of certain first hour supporters has left you very disappointed and we all know that no one can tell you to be patient and repeat it over and over when you are convinced that there is no more time, neither for you neither for Rwanda’s dance heritage. Patience has been probably the hardest to achieve goal of your personality during all your life and someone telling you to be patient, is as defying the devil personally! Fortunately, you have met new fellows and companions and one in particular has understood from the first moment which are your goals and he supports them fully as if they were his own for the sake of the cause.  While your dream is far from achieved and many hurdles are still to be taken we can be hopeful for the nearby future.

We both know and all those around you, that you will not sit down and contemplate with satisfaction what you have done in this almost sixty four years. Only at your last breath you will end to make plans and frankly I’m not even sure about this as you will not take the risk to arrive with an empty basket on the other side of the Rubicon.
Nevertheless you told me that sometimes you would like to be one of those anonymous fans on a soccer game on a grey icy Saturday, having a beer if your team won the match and also having one if the match was lost and going thoughtless to bed later that night instead of reviewing all the coming problems. Indeed it must be blissful starting the night with the only thought that the next day you will have a lazy Sunday afternoon.

You hate the name bucket list as it suggest that it contents ten thousand things you want to do before you expire. Your arguments against are, that most certainly you rather wanna do that ten thousand and one thing and that if you only achieve a part of the list you will be left alone with bitter thoughts. Another argument is that the plans for such a wish list never consider the mental and the physical decline. At the end the longlist can become an unsightly shortlist. Despite that you became very restless these last months as you really want to undertake some actions that you have postponed because there was still time…

You want to see ‘Rigoletto’ in Torino, ‘Peter Grimes’ in London, ‘Faust’ in Paris, ‘La Fanciulla del West’ in Napels, Bellini’s ‘Norma’ in la Scala and taste the cocktail with the composers name in Catania.  You cannot die before having seen so many places and not only Napoli’s bay. You cannot stop fighting before your dancers have found a place to perform and you cannot leave this planet without returning to Procida, or do you!? Neruda will never forgive you and you would never forgive yourself.
You can’t imagine dying before you were dancing Salsa in Cali, Cumbia in the Colombian Caribbean and Tango on a square in Buenos Aires. You wanna visit the old conga master Alberto Cortez in Peru. You have to smell the air and seeing the light of places you have been before, at least  to see the memory confirmed. And once and for all you want to be cured of that unbearable syndrome of not being able to say goodbye by paying a final visit to those who have played a major role in your life during all those years.

After reading all this, you know now, that this only can be achieved by giving you a second lifetime or by making choices. Yes, I know Guy, this is the most difficult part of the job. It is the essence of what you have said all those years to youngsters you have worked with. It has been probably the most difficult task and yet you have to submit yourself to this exercise again. You cannot postpone Guy because, as you said yourself, there is no more time left.
So let me give you this last advice, the one that you also gave to others on different occasions… a lot can be achieved with a little help of your friends…. don’t forget to ask them.

Yours always,

Guy.

PS:  Before I forget, there is that other moment you have waited for, thirty eight years already, to wake up one morning next to the woman you have always loved. But that brings us back to patience!


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